Venting

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Permalink Reply by Bashirs_Momma on November 9, 2007 at 10:20pm

Lucky, Sassy... I think the main reason I have waited so darn long to even start the process is that the state of insurance coverage in the US is AWFUL! Absolutely awful.

We started the process last February when my husband finally got health insurance that would cover it... but he lost that job, and our new insurance doesn't cover it.

I am hoping that we will be able to argue that it is a GYN issue (which in many ways it is!) and get the insurance companies to cover it. They will cover the thyroid tests, and other things which may be related. But anything very specifically infertility related won't be...

It is terrible. They would cover me if I got pregnant.. but not if I want to get pregnant.

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Permalink Reply by Sassy on November 9, 2007 at 10:29pm

Bashir : OMG, my heart moves out to you...

Steph : HIMARIOUS article. I loved it. Wow, that was REDBOOK?

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Permalink Reply by Stephanie Matern on November 10, 2007 at 8:09am

Yes, can you believe it? The author is Julie from alittlepregnant.com. If you haven't checked our her Website yet, go now! She is one of the pioneers of infertility blogging and it wonderful.

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Permalink Reply by Stephanie Matern on November 9, 2007 at 9:30am

I don't know if you'd heard this buit this week is National Infertility Awareness Week. Juile at the Intertility Diaries on Redbook writes about it here

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Permalink Reply by Just Jinny on November 12, 2007 at 11:28am

I only talk about it here and there. I try not to let it consume me. I did and it was damaging to me and my relationship with my husband.

We have been trying for six years. I've had the HSG test, fertility pills, blood drawn to test for PCOS, Thyroid problems, and ovulation, sperm has been examined. I had an exploratory surgery nearly two years ago for the doctor to see if my tubes looked good. They DID look good but he found a small bit of endomitriosis, which he removed. But there is no cure for that so I'm sure its back by now.

This last July I got pregnant for the first time. But sadly it was a tubal pregnancy and I had emergency surgery to have the pregnancy removed along with my right fallopian tube.

So, now we are just getting back to normal and getting ready to start trying again. I've cried and screamed and asked 'why me'. I've turned it off and felt nothing, not wanting to talk about it and trying not to think about it. I've held it close and held it far away. My husband and I have found comfort in each other and have also argued about it. I've been through the roller coaster ride lots of times.

But, I am still hopeful. The doctor said to try for the next six months and if we aren't pregnant again by then to go back and see him. I'm crossing my fingers for all of us here...that in the next six months we ALL have what we want.

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Permalink Reply by Stephanie Matern on November 12, 2007 at 11:41am

Jinny,
I think you just summed up the feelings of any one going through infertility. The frustrations, the hopes, the disappointments. I get so frustrated when people tell me not to think about it. How in the hell do you not think about it? Isn't not thinking about it, still in a way thinking about it?

You have been through so much more than I pray I ever have to go through. It sounds like you and your husband have a very strong foundation, which is the most important thing during this experience.

Maybe if we think of each other instead of ourselves we will get what we want!

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Permalink Reply by Alison on November 14, 2007 at 2:18pm

All this discussion goes to show that everybody needs a little support. By support, I do not mean "Just try and relax" or "Just stop trying, then it will happen" or "Try not to think about it" or "Why are you taking your temperature?" or "Just let it happen on it's own." Sometimes we need understanding and real life doesn't always give you the support you need.

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